I’m a very transparent person {hence my blog name}…I spill
everything about myself within the first few minutes of conversation
usually. I wear my emotions on my
sleeves. It’s not a good thing
necessarily and I’m very aware of it.
For some reason I have this deep seeded need for people to
understand me, know the real me.
Sometimes, this makes me come across as a negative person because if you
ask me how I’m doing, I’m going to TELL you how I’m doing.
This year I turned 31 and I feel like it is going to be a
REALLY good…painful…but GOOD year!
God seems to be pulling the layers away as all my junk
bubbles and rises out of me. Living
cross-cultural {particularly with 2 little ones} will do that to you. And while it may feel rough and difficult,
it’s a necessary thing to face our junk and make changes.
For most of my marriage, I have always been trying to figure
out why I am wired the way I am, why I react certain ways, why I’m different
than my husband…and he has been sort of my psychologist. Now I really should have seen my own
therapist, but I will tell you that he has done a pretty great job of listening
and asking great questions. I just LOVE
him for this. So without going into the
details of my life, I will give you bits and pieces…to help me process because
I’m a verbal processor.
I have recently taken the Myers-Briggs personality test
AGAIN…for like the 5th time in my life. I always get confused by my results because I
don’t think I fit it, but everytime it comes out ENFP – Campaigner. And you know what, I actually think it fits
me for the first time.
Why I’ve been so confused all these years is that it says I
am an exuberant, adventure seeking, life-of-the-party extrovert…which just
hasn’t been me for a REALLY long time. For
those of you who have just met me in the last, I don’t know, 12 years, you may
have not seen that side of me. It does
come out every once in a while. And I’m
finally discovering a few reasons why:
#1 PHYSICAL PAIN
I have suffered for the last 12 years from
migraines because I have something called TMJ disorder, it’s a dislocated or
damaged jaw. The doctors think it
happened in a very bad car accident I was in while I was a teenager. Because of this discovery in college, I had
to quit my #1 passion that brought me joy: singing. Since then, I have had to give up teaching,
dancing, limit my social events each week, the list goes on…all because talking,
smiling, and overusing my jaw and
shoulders all lead to tons of pain and eventually migraines once to several times
a week.
#2 EMOTIONAL PAIN
Because of the physical pain, I
have recently discovered just how saddened and passionless I have become
because of this. I am to the point where
I don’t even know what makes me feel ALIVE anymore. I sometimes envy those around me who get to do the things
that bring them joy. I feel almost
depressed because of it.
#3 FEAR
I have lived in fear for so many years,
always trying to fit in and worried about what others think about me. This has resulted in me not being true to
myself and being confident in who I was created to be.
So because of all this, I have had a victim mindset lately,
thinking, "This is it. Poor me, nothing
can be done." And while I have tried
soooo many treatments and tried to make changes in my life, I haven’t found a
solution yet.
But I’m hopeful again,
because as I look at my beautiful girls, who cry and scream when they don’t get
what they want from me, I remember that I know what’s best even if they don’t
understand. And that’s how I believe God
looks at us. No matter how many times I
cry out to Him for answers and get frustrated and let down, He knows best.
All I can do is Trust Him and continue seeking out something
that will spark some interest in me and bring life back into my soul {besides
of course my wonderful family whom I love more than anything}
Here’s to 31!
A year of FREEDOM
Grace
Hope
Discovery
Joy
Dancing with my Mark in Yanglam, Papua New Guinea
New Year's Eve Backpacking through NYC
Weekly hikes with our students in Papua New Guinea
Sunsets with Mark!
Learning to make a handbag in PNG
First moments with Zoey
First moments with Gracie
Holding my babe through her suffering
Sharing at churches in TZ
Celebrating new life with friends in TZ
Eating and laughing with friends in TZ
Dancing with Zoey {even though it leads to pain, it's worth it}
Zoey and I loving on some children at Light in Africa